Cannonpointer » 13 Nov 2015 1:51 am wrote:
If I sprain my ankle, if I forget to shave, if i succeed or fail, if it rains when I wanted shine - EVERYTHING in my life is my responsibility. I own my errors and my accidents and the fucking weather. I take FULL RESPONSIBILITY for a rainstorm, and if I promised you that I would have X done by X time, I give you my word that it SHALL be done, rain storm or no - and if it ISN'T, I DOUBLY give you my word that you won't hear me using "there was a rain storm" as if it's a magic eraser that changes the lie I told you into truth.
If i said I would do X by X O'clock, then at X O'clock, any no-account fly on the wall can testify that I did
or I did not
keep my word. A rainstorm has jack shit to do with me owning my failures and/or CONTINGENCY PLANNING FOR SUCCESS. In either case, excuses =/= performance. PERFORMANCE = performance.
No one in my life would even DREAM of coming to me for consolation in broken heartedness, pity parties, what have you. COUNSELING sure - but not consolation unless they're consoled by taking ownership.
They all know for CERTAIN I will put every ounce, gram and dram of responsibility squarely on their shoulders where it belongs. It will be done lovingly, patiently, appropriately. But If i love you, I will NEVER treat you like a victim, like an object of the verb. You will ALWAYS be the protagonist in my loving narrative of you. You will ALWAYS be the hero, ALWAYS be at cause, ALWAYS catch the light at jaunty angles, and you will NEVER be at effect. You will be the actor in my narrative, not he acted upon. You've got my word on it. To see you any other way would be insulting and demeaning. If I saw my beloved as the acted upon, I would not be me, or my beloved would not be my beloved. My world is peopled by giants, and I keep my strides long to match theirs - on my better days, to perhaps inspire theirs.
And keep your "responsibility" over there with you. ACCOUNTABILITY
is the beginning of power. Folks can be "responsible" just by being very careful to play small. You can never break the word you did not give
. Being ACCOUNTABLE means playing big, making life-sized promises (and life-sized mistakes), and telling the truth about any gaps between promise and performance.
Is my success my responsibility? Lol. Tomorrow's temperature
is my responsibility. Whether the sun rises in the sky
is my responsibility. I live in a world where I make stuff happen by the power of my word. You offer me an easy out, I'm gonna see it as an insulting bribe. You're offering me mebership in a quitters club, where you don't call me on my bullshit and i don't call you on yours. I'm up to bigger things than that, and I decline such invitations. If you want a friend who would rather offend you and lose you than condescend to you, I'm your guy.
I have the whole world in my hands - MY world. I trust that your world is in yours. You'll not see my prints on it.None of this means I will cosign dismissing the realities of social roles assigned to certain demographics, or pretend that capitalism is a perfect (or anywhere near BEST) wealth-distribution mechanism.
It has been my experience that dullards - meaning conjobs, rest-area romeos, what have you - believe that being responsible for your own success entitles you - or even REQUIRES you - to lie about the quality of our economic sytem or the quality of social justice in our society. The very FIRST thing that I would tell a black person that I
care about is, "You are a nigger and you will always be a nigger at the drop of an n-word. You have to work harder, work smarter, and cheat wherever posiible, nigger, if you want to make it half as far as many an entitled cracker is BORN having made it."
I'm not doing that to condescend or to give him an excuse to be a punk-ass quitter. I'm doing it because I care, and I want him to have the best available information. I'll still give his whining the same blind ear I give the whining of ANYONE I care about. I'll answer any excuses with, "Nigger, please" - and the nigger will (please), because accountability calls out the best in people, and niggers are people, with well over 99% human genes.EDIT
Correction to the above - apparently, it's chimpanzees that have 99% human genes, and niggers are full blown human, same DNA as the rest of us - my bad.
I guess that means no more surreptitious.clinical trials.